In a perfect world, little girls would not be sexually abused,
they would not be used, they would not be harmed. But we live
in a sin-sick, fallen world and unthinkable things happen and there
are no perfect answers to the situations women have faced --- but
when sexualabuse is faced, is accepted and acknowledged for the
ugly, painful, damaging, hurtful thing is it, I believe steps to
healing can begin to be taken. I believe most all mamas and daddys
want to protect little girls from harm and, if they understand
(experientially or know to do so) they want to protect their little
girl's innocence so they'll grow and mature into healthy,
strong and emotionally secure women -- but sometimes things happen
to little girls that mamas and daddys don't know about -- and little
girls learn to hide, learn shame, denial, fear. If they've been hurt
already or have been affected by sexualabuse, please listen to them,
please walk with them as they heal and develop strong, healthy
attitudes toward others, security regarding future intimacy, about right relationships
and appropriate responses, about friendships, trust and self
More of my thoughts
and more links here:
Childhood Sexual Abuse .
Why do so many
sites and organizations have a similar message or name?
Stop the Silence, Just Tell, I am gonna tell, Silent no more
and my own site
Telling On You.
It's like this: We all were
told virtually the same thing by our abuser: Don't tell.
Don't tell anyone... This will be our little secret. We
don't want to tell anyone else about this, okay, sweetie?
You'd better not tell anyone about this little incident.
Nothing really happened. We're not going to make a big
deal about this, okay? Don't tell...
And we grew up with the lie. We lived with the lie:
And most of us wanted
to die with, or because of, the bondage of the "Don't tell"
You can see/read more of my thoughts and more links here:
We all have the
same story and because somewhere along the way we mustered up
the courage to tell someone... Our message, collectively, is: Don't
remain silent ANY longer.
If you are, or someone you know is, being sexually abused:
TELL SOMEONE TODAY.
THE SILENCE, BREAK THE BONDAGE, HEAL THE BROKEN...
Opening the Door to Healing
The Mark (Part Two) 10 Ways Sexual Abuse Has Shaped Me
The Scar of Sexual Abuse
How Do You Forgive A Sexual Abuser? By Writing A Letter
following each article, you'll
see the assorted links to more articles
Mary has written about both sexual abuse and its aftermath -______________________________
More than Just a Survivor - Soul Wounds - Sue's Story Part 1
More than just a Survivor - A Bad New World - Sue's Story Part 2
More than Just a Survivor - The Effects of CSA on my life -
Sue's Story Part 3
More Than Just a Survivor - Start of the Journey to Healing -
Sue's Story Part 4
More Than Just a Survivor - Rescue - Sue's Story Part 5
Just Tell "Just Tell was
created to educate and empower children and adults around the issue
of childhood sexual abuse. Through the
kids’ pages, we encourage children who are being sexually abused
to choose an adult in their life who they trust, and to tell that
adult about the abuse."
I Am Gonna
website was designed to educate, inspire and help people commit to
reporting sexual abuse. One person can make a difference and
together we can achieve so much more. "
Recovery From Abuse
The Door Of Hope Jan Frank
This book was extremely helpful
to me as I struggled with fear and regret, with shame over past
abuse. It helped me also, to talk personally with the author,
Jan Frank, and to have her listen to me as I shared my story and to
have her valuable insight and input for coping with things, with
accepting healing from the past, with dealing with responses to
Jan Frank's Website: