This is a very private and extremely
important message of encouragement
share with you
How to Really Love
Your Husband
by Mrs. Sharon Hockenbury
It can be a
challenge letting the Lord work out all
the delicate parts of family
relationships. In my own life, instead
of focusing
on my husband and his faults, I really
ask the Lord to help me
minister to him in EVERY WAY. There is
an author that interviewed
many husbands. Their responses were
basically the same. "We are
pretty simple creatures with really
basic needs." To be FED and
SEX. Now, I know that is blunt...but
when their basic needs are
met, it seems the Lord opens their
hearts to his ways. I have
another friend whose husband watches a
lot of T.V. She went in one
night with a robe and nothing else. She
stood in front of the T.V,
opened her robe and asked if he wanted
to come and watch T.V. with her. He
could not find the remote fast enough.
We need to lure our men sometimes. When
at the computer, rub his shoulders, kiss
his ear, tell him you are waiting for
him. You begin to talk his
language and God will do a miracle. I
hope this isn't to forward
for some of you...but it seems some
times the practical aspects of
marriage a drowned out by the Spiritual
and they are interlinked.
Speaking of practical, when women get
into the mode of finding fault with
their husbands, especially after they
have had some "revelation" they picked
up from the latest book on the Christian
Market, there is a spiritual block that
goes up. What ends up happening is a
further distancing in relationship. When
a husband feels loved unconditionally,
it can do wonders. As we draw our
husbands with our LOVE and not our
EXPECTATIONS, I really believe God
begins to work.
I have a friend that has
cried out to God..."when will he change"
etc. and so on. God spoke to her and
said, "When your LOVE is MATURE." It is
easy to forget that we as wives are in
the PROCESS also. We really need to
guard our hearts from pride, thinking we
know more, are more spiritual, have a
greater vision that our husbands. I know
this is a hot topic, but I have been
married 25 years and am beginning to see
some incredible things happen in my
home, and it is NOT because I held my
husband accountable, it is because I am
finally learning to LOVE HIM the way HE
needs to be loved, appreciating all the
hard work he does so I can be at
home....join e-mail lists, have friends,
get vision, train the children and
flooding him with gratitude and
joy...for WHO HE IS...and not some image
I dream up in my head.
I LOVED Debi
Pearl's book, "Created To Be His Help
Meet". She goes into incredible
biblical detail about the whys and then
adds practical stories for the How's!!
To get a
book you can go to:
www.nogreaterjoy.org.
Lovingly,
Sharon Hockenbury