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Please understand why...

 I used to recommend this book (To Train Up A Child)  but realize that the book has been misused, the suggestions misconstrued and has been misused as permission to beat children.

I have read this book as I do all other things I read: I read it, weighed it for it's validity, accuracy or usefulness and then, simply gleaned things in it that were of value -- our methods and applications were theirs, but ours, personally designed as we were *already* training and disciplining children when they deliberately *not* childishly disobeyed.  I do not now, will not in the future and NEVER have in the past advocated beating, whipping, hitting, slapping, abusing children.  We've NEVER advocated starving children, locking them in rooms or locking them outside, etc., etc.  There is a gigantic leap from where we stand and what's been interpreted or *assumed* or added to or misconstrued about the book TTUAC and the over use of corporal punishment and ensuing child abuse.  But somehow my well intentioned inclusion of this book has had negative ramifications and for this I am sorry (and, frankly, though I'm weary of the vicious hate mail I receive, I want it to be known that I do not blanketly endorse this book) and thus have removed the content (the text of the book) from this page for this reason alone - so that no one will read excerpts of the book and think they know what the whole context is.  We do not now, have never and will never advocate hitting children -- therefore, if you read this book, please do so with extreme sensitivity and determine that you will NEVER discipline in frustration or anger or as a last resort in exasperation;  please learn self discipline so that you will always discipline with great sensitivity, purpose, self control and clear understanding.

My intention was (and very much is!) to promote intelligent, intentional, self-controlled, responsible and LOVING, carefully planned discipline (do not ignorantly construe this to mean beatings, railings, hitting, etc., etc.) and not think that the incessant use of warnings and warnings and warnings about the child losing privileges or sitting in the time out chair after warning after warning or, worse, leaving children alone to behave however they feel like behaving is the proper way to train children.  My intent was/is to promote -- loving discipline -- NOT what's being ignorantly/intentionally promulgated as beating or prolonged corporal punishment or whatever other arrogant, misinterpreted view or misconstrued conclusion.   

Children must be lovingly guided; they must be assured their parents adore them and as such they should live with daily affirmation that they're loved and cared for.  Parents must bless and encourage them as children are given daily oversight and care.  In growing stages or age-appropriate stages of being intentionally well trained, well loved, well disciplined, well cared for -- in order that they be well behaved, well respected, well nurtured, well mannered, well instructed, well praised and well desired: confident and self-controlled adults.  Children must have the daily affirmation they are uniquely loved by their Creator and that the Lord has specially created them for His glory.  Our earnest hope for them is that they will be found faithful.

We train up children in the way they should go... that they will love the Lord with all their heart, mind and strength and that they will love their neighbour as themselves.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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