But By
God's Grace Go We... Let's be gracious to
single mothers
Glenys Hicks
Single mothers who
bring up their children unto the LORD have an
immensely difficult time of it and usually are not
given much help- even from the Body of Christ. For
those women who truly believe that being a
stay-at-home-mother is a commandment and not a
life-style, it is imperative that they be given the
chance to support their family. Please note that I
did not say that the Church should support them
entirely- they want to find a way of supporting
themselves from home- but I do think that they
should be given a helping hand by the Church to set
up a cottage industry or some home business.
Unfortunately, most
single mothers have found that not only is
financial help lacking in the Church, but also
social support. They are often made to feel
second rate Christians, even when the divorce or
separation is not their fault. Yet they continue
to apply Christian principles to their own lives
and that of their children’s upbringing and have
to endure many unkind remarks if they ask for
assistance in living out their beliefs-
especially earning money from home so as to be
with their children.
Often these remarks
come from pastors who should know better and who
also should know their scriptures better. They
sometimes should put the brake on their own
words and listen to what the Word of God has to
say about a given subject. In this case single
parenting and being home bringing children up
unto the LORD. For some single women fight a
great battle against being ridiculed as wanting
to be supported by others to stay at home with
the children. They are told to review their
life-style!
To suggest that by
obeying God's Word in Titus 2 and loving your
children and home, being chaste and being a
keeper at home is a life-style is ridiculous! A
life-style is a choice- Christians don't have a
choice! Obedience to the Word is never a choice
but a command and an expectation in the
Christian's walk. You are obeying the Word- and
taking the path that is most
difficult and narrow-but we know it leads to
Life.
The Church should
be looking after true widows and the fatherless.
(1Tim 5-16) A woman bringing up her children
alone is a widow in a sense- and to some degree,
her children are fatherless. I believe that all
single Christian mothers who choose to obey God
should be helped by the Church. Especially in
the matter of starting up a cottage industry or
home business to provide for their family.
Now obviously
Timothy states that the young widows are not to
be supported by the Church- but these mothers
are not asking for support, just a helping hand
in getting a home business started to help them
support their family whilst still obeying the
Scriptures. To my mind, these people/pastors who
attack these single mothers are lacking in
compassion and godly wisdom.
There is no easy
and gentle way to reveal Truth in cases where
there are pharisaical ideas! Jesus certainly
didn't skirt around the Truth looking for a way
to be gentle with the hypocrites and Pharisees!
I just pray before I write and then I write with
boldness! If it offends- well the truth often
hurts! And if in the end, the readers/hearers
heed what is truthfully pointed out, then
perhaps they will be of some help in the
'difficult-enough-path-without-this' period of
single mothers’ lives.
Too often we find
that the Church lacks one thing- GRACE. Single
mothers, you are doing a great job! May God
bless you and keep you and make His countenance
shine upon you and give you peace! And grant
those who harshly judge you for doing what is
right a liberal dose of compassion and
understanding!
© Glenys Robyn
Hicks
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